Hello everyone, Life Lessons is back for a fourth edition! This lesson will hopefully help you to focus on forgiving yourself and others around you. Recently, a lot has happened in my life that has put this lesson to the test and I have had trouble going through it. I usually try to practice what I preach in these life lesson blogs and forgiveness is probably one of the hardest ones to practice, along with honesty.
In all honesty, (pun intended) I had a very hard time finding a good picture of forgiveness, so I settled on this one. To forgive someone is one of the hardest things anyone can do, especially if that person has hurt you. Today I will be telling you a very recent story that has helped me develop some forgiveness skills. This one is much more in depth and emotional than the others, but I feel like I should put it out there to help you see how hard forgiveness is sometimes.
One Monday afternoon I was sitting at lunch and my best friend comes up to me and tells me that she doesn’t think we should be friends anymore due to differences in our political opinions. She kept talking after that, but I couldn’t hear her. I sat there, feeling empty and nodded until she was done talking, then she left. I can still feel that feeling of deep despair that overtook me once she left. I was alone, she had been my only friend at school. I stood up and ran out of the lunchroom, my eyes burning and my heart shattered because I had lost my only friend over such a silly reason.
I was able to make it to the bathroom where I broke down sobbing. My only thought then was “why”; “why” did this happen to me, “why” would she do this, “why” don’t people like me, and “why” I am affected like this. I called my parents to pick me up after that and went home where I started crying again. Anyways, I cried for a while until I realized that they were no longer tears of hurt, but tears of hate. I had subconsciously made the decision that I hate her when I was buried in my grief and in that moment, I was okay with it.
As time continued to pass, I felt alone. I felt isolated and hurt. I hated her with a passion that I had never had before because she had wounded me so deeply. Then, one night about a week after that, I watched a movie that changed my perspective on my situation. That move was “The Shack.” I know that you probably think that it’s some stupid Christian movie, which is what I initially thought, but my mom made me watch it and let me tell you, it was amazing. Even though it is a fiction movie, it taught me how to forgive someone who had seriously wronged me.
I cried again that night. That time, I was letting all of my stored up rage and emotion come out. I forgave her for hurting me. I forgave myself for not feeling good enough. I slept great that night, I was free from the pain and hate that was clouding my judgement and life for the past week.
Now, I have come to accept what happened and even though I haven’t been able to make new friends, I’ve forgiven old friends. I know that the example does not teach you how to forgive, but it does show you how hard it can be to forgive someone. There’s no magic way to let go of the past and everyone must deal with it in their own ways.
On a happier note, I hope that you learned something and enjoyed this version of life lessons. As always, I will end with some quotes. Don’t forget to work on being patient, persistent, and honest.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”- Mahatma Gandhi
“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” – Bernard Meltzer
“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”- Bruce Lee