Hello everyone and welcome to round two of Life Lessons! In this new year, it’s more important than ever to think about how you can improve yourself from last year. You can do this by reflecting back on your year and seeing what you would like to improve on. In this session, I will be talking about a trait that everyone can possess, but not many do; honesty. Although the idea of being honest is simple, many have trouble following through with it. Honesty, as defined in the Webster Dictionary, is being “free from fraud or deception.” In other words, telling the truth.
As always, this a great picture for you visual learning people. I don’t know if it was on purpose, but when you think about it, this picture is very accurate. In the game scrabble, the goal is to spell a word out of the letters you draw out of a bag and one letter already on the board. There are usually many words that you can make out of the seven you tiles get and one on the board. This is exactly what honesty is. You can tell a variety of lies, falsehoods, and snippets of the truth, but there is only one way to be completely honest and that is by telling the whole truth. In the picture above, there are many words that you can make out of the word honesty like nest, honey, set, the, no, yes, and many more. That’s like what we do, as people we tell versions or snippets of the truth and are usually never completely honest. We never quite “spell out” honesty, but with practice, we can.
Honesty and truth often go hand in hand, even though they are not exactly the same thing. Truth is defined as, “the body of real things, events, and facts.” The definitions are pretty similar right? But, they are not the same thing because the shape of events can be warped by your senses and memory, therefore making your version of what happened not 100% accurate or true. As I’ve learned over my years and my experience as a journalist, there is always three sides to every story; the perspectives and the truth. The truth of what happened usually lies somewhere between two people’s honest remembrance of events.
This time I will not be telling a story of how I learned this lesson, because I’m still learning. I’m not going to say that I’m honest 100 percent of the time, but it’s something that I’m working on. I will say, as a child, my parents told me to always tell the truth. I remember not wanting to because I was embarrassed about what happened or didn’t want them to know the truth. But, I’m one of those people that guilt really affects. When I don’t tell the truth, I feel really bad about it. I feel like the truth is this invisible weight on my shoulders that’s weighing me down and tieing me around the lie I told. That the secret I’m keeping is weighing on me all day. This only happens to me when I am asked a direct question and I lie about it. Some of you may feel how I feel, or be completely okay with lying. Either way, we should all strive to be honest and tell the truth.
I’m telling you right now that someone will find out you told a lie. I’m not talking about a small lie, I’m talking about a big lie. A classic example of this happened with my mom the other day. She was interviewing potential employees and someone lied about their numbers and status as a sales person. My mom found out because she knew the woman’s previous boss and talked to him about her. My mom didn’t hire the woman because of the lie that she told. She had a great personality and interview, but because she told that lie, my mom couldn’t trust her enough to hire her. If she would have been honest, then my mom said she would have hired her. Lying can cost you a large price like jobs, scholarships, and even a spouse. It’s just better to be honest, because you never know who the person who you lied to knows. You especially want to be careful about lying to people who are close to you. You can lose a good friend over a small lie, but you can also gain friends from lying. I do not recommend this because you will have to live that lie everyday you spend with them and they are not good friends if they only like you because of the lie you told them.
The point of this entry in a nutshell is to tell you to be honest. It’s a simple concept, but it takes a lot of practice. You are not being forced to do bad things, so if you wouldn’t want to tell your family about it, then don’t do it.
Here are some quotes that hopefully inspire you to be honest:
“Honesty is the best policy.” – Benjamin Franklin
“The trite saying that honesty is the best policy has met with the just criticism that honesty is not policy. The real honest man is honest from conviction of what is right, not from policy.” – Robert E. Lee
“I think the most important thing for me in a relationship is honesty.” – Zac Efron
Feel free to leave some comments and likes if this even made you think about trying to be honest more. Leave some constructive criticism and ideas for my next post! See ya next time and don’t forget to work on being persistent and honest.